Children of alcoholics tend to want to be all things to all people in order to be accepted. And because of this, they tend to ignore their own feelings, wants and desires. They always settle so that others are happy.
These traits carrying into adulthood. A wife may put off completing her bachelor’s degree program, for example, so that her husband can earn his degree and be promoted in his company. It is a noble gesture but somewhere along the line, in the midst of raising the kids, keeping the house, and so forth her dreams get pushed down and never realized.
I was the good daughter that allowed my parents to mold me and guide me down a career path that they thought was suitable and stable. I ended up employed with the federal government for the steady pay check and the benefits. I worked in human resources for many years then in the equal employment opportunity arena.
Although I have been gainfully employed for over 30 years now, nothing about my job excites me. I have no passion for the work that I do. I didn’t even know what my passion was. But then an interpersonal communication course in college help me uncover the passions that I had buried so many years ago. I remembered that I loved to write, take pictures and travel.
Now I am taking time to do the things that I really want to do. I’ve written two books, I blog, I travel and take pictures. I blog about my travels and create memory books of the places that I have visited. And now I know it’s okay to just do me.
Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.