One of the core issues of adult children of alcoholics (ACOA) is control. The fear of loss of control is a dominant theme in our lives. Control dominates the interactions of an ACOA with ourselves as well as the people in our lives.
Fear of loss of control, whether it be over our emotions, thoughts, feelings, will, actions, or relationships is pervasive. We rely upon defense mechanisms such as denial, suppression in order to control our internal world of thoughts and feelings as well as the outward manifestation of those thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
I struggle daily to overcome this long ingrained core issue.
Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins, and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.