Shedding 2017

At the close of the year many resolve to lose weight in the New Year. I am no exception as I make this resolution every year.

However, I’ve only recently come to realize a deeper meaning. I liken the resolve to lose weight like a snake shedding its skin. Snakes shed their skin to allow for further growth and to remove parasites that have attached to their old skin. As a snake grows, its skin becomes stretched, grows and transforms.

Weight gain, for me, is tied to my feelings of anxiety and food being my comfort. If I am to transform, I must shed self-destructive behavior. Only then can I stretch, grow, and transform into the person I know I was always meant to be.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.

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LizHawkins@TrinityUniv

 

 

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An ACOA Christmas

I remember as a young adult getting together with my family during the holidays.  My alcoholic father had passed on years before and my brothers were now married with children.

We had some of the most dysfunctional holiday get-togethers ever.  There was always liquor and beer flowing and before you knew it an argument would break out.  My brothers would fight with their wives, the wives would fight with each other.  And all the children would be crying.

After so many years of this I could no longer be a part of the family get-togethers.  I felt that my family would never be normal.  I have since established my own traditions with my husband, mother, in-laws, and friends that include good food, good conversation, and no alcohol.

Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.

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LizHawkins@TrinityUniv

One Famous ACOA

One of my favorite entertainers of all times in the late, great Michael Jackson.  Despite his fame and fortune, he most likely was an undiagnosed ACOA.

Look at his life, Michael Jackson was raised by an abusive father who demanded perfection.  And he grew up to become one of the most popular dysfunctional people.  His life and tragic death, allegedly brought on by drug abuse, illustrates how untreated personal issues can grow from hidden pain to eventually become an unmanageable life and a shortened life span.

Michael was rich and famous and surrounded by brownnosers and hangers-on whose livelihood depended on not challenging the status quo.  If Michael’s family tried to intervene, they were not successful.

He had isolated himself so deeply in a cocoon of denial, drugs and an entourage of so-called protectors, he never had to face reality.  If Michael wasn’t able to come out of his self-imposed isolation, ACOA recovery was an impossibility.

The lesson here is that no matter who you are, how much money or fame you have, the first step to getting badly needed help is still coming out of isolation.

Rest in Peace, Michael

Source: Adult Children of Alcoholic/ACAs/ACOAs/ACODFs Blog

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LizHawkins@TrinityUniv

 

MYTH #3 about ACoAs – OUR SUPPORT GROUPS SHOULD REPLACE OUR UNHEALTHY FAMILIES

If you belong to an ACOA support group you may have made lifelong friends that you dearly love. However, the purpose of the group is to provide a safe place for us to learn about ourselves — not to replace the family of origin. The goal is to come to a place of acceptance, peace and understanding and become open to the possibilities of renewed relationships with our family of origin. We may even be the catalyst for that change. We need to find ways to connect with others, other than by identifying with their level of pain. When our ACOA groups came to an end, the members continued to get together socially and the focus shifted to friendship and fun. When your group experience has run its course, I hope you will add your wonderful new friends to your circle of loved ones.

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LizHawkins@TrinityUniv

Source: Lisa Sue Woititz, author of Unwelcomed Inheritance