A fifth core issue of an adult child of an alcoholic (ACOA) is that they tend to ignore their own needs. This likely stems from the fact that their emotional needs continually took a back seat to alcoholism, chaos, and emotional and physical violence.
All too many ACOA’s equate acknowledging their emotional needs with being vulnerable or even weak. Feeling vulnerable also is equated with being out of control – a state of being which an ACOA finds intolerable.
Along with feeling vulnerable and out of control, acknowledging their emotional needs may make an ACOA feel dependent, inadequate, or even worse than those states, forever in debt to the person who met their needs.
Hi, I’m Liz Hawkins, and I’m a recovering Adult Child of an Alcoholic.